How to stay motivated

#wittysecrets

Going from failure to failure without loosing interest can be a one hell of a bumpy ride and if you are not careful you could hit rock bottom or go straight to anxiety. However staying motivated is the lifestyle of a winner.

For some persons, staying motivated is cliché because they already have responsibilities to keep them “motivated” however what is life without some real useful hacks.

Some of the simple things can keep you motivated are.

1.your why: Steve Jobs thought of having 1000 songs in your pocket when he created the iPod. No matter what you do to keep going, always have your why at your finger tip because it doesn’t only keep you going it also expands your creative juices.

1. Do it differently. When I found a better way to teach my kids, teaching them became something I always looked out for.
   Think of better ways to write, learn, design, teach, train, lead etc.
2. Have a morning ritual: a morning ritual helps you stay motivated for the rest of the day. Try to ensure that it is related to your bigger projects. It could be a simple how-to or a new word. However keep it simple.
3. Set goals : set them yearly monthly weekly and daily however your daily goals are very important, set them before you go to bed. It keeps you motivated and opens up your mind to new ideas.

Everybody should have something that keeps them motivated even after they have sucessfull discovered a thousand ways not to do it.

What keeps you motivated

How to communicate your worth

How to communicate your worth

The value of a person’s worth, is not something that you can negotiate at the trading or forte stations, neither can it be determined by the amount of Gucci gold plated jewelries you wear.

We are created in the image and likeness of God and just like a luxury brand, Our worth doesn’t depend on who is offering.

You communicate your worth every time you pick a flimsy quarrel with your neighbour.

You communicate your worth when you sit at the negotiation table with a company that is about to employ you.

Your worth is not dependent on your net worth but by the service you render to humanity. Therefore bill gates is not worth 93.9 billion (because this would increase at the end of 2019)but he is worth the service he has and can render to humanity, one of such is the means by which you receive this message “the internet”

Learn to communicate your worth by

1.Staying open to information that brings value to you.

2. Choosing to lead your life.

3. Making the right decisions.

4. Deciding to keep the right friends and stay in a positive association.

4. The books you read and apply.

5. change and service you bring to the life of others.

Happy first Sunday

#Personaldevelopmenthabitsno6
#humanintrinsicvalue

Spell bound or an afterthought

How often do you go in with the wrong mindset to a competition and win?

Apart from having the right skill set, one major thing everyone should hold unto when going in for a business or competition is the right mindset.

So this is the second time I am seeing an America’s next top model contestant, expressing her love for modeling in comparison to an afterthought.

Celia who is the third runner up at the Americas next top model, at her eviction interview said she was gonna try other options in fashion if modelling does not work for her. What!!! That’s just like Beyonce saying she would be a DJ if singing doesn’t work for her.

Teyona on the other hand was crying uncontrollably like me😭 during her commercials but she won. Because she knew she was worth it, Tyra Banks knew, we the viewers knew

Your mindset makes you stand out and keeps you pushing. That space you want should be the only space you crave even if it’s not the only space available for you.

Sit down every day and ask yourself if what you are doing is reflecting the power that lies beneath your skin.

If you were to change the world, through what channel would it be

The only way to find out is to engage in the things you love. And grow.

And if you are already working but would love to have time for your passions.

Join our watsapp group on Sunday evening,  Homa Phebe would be speaking on balancing work(white collar)and business.

#X10woman
#personaldevelopmenttipno4

2018 lessons

One of the biggest lessons I learnt in 2018 is patience.

Patience with your vision and plans 📝

Patience is like a 10 years old child and his mother’s phone📱, she flogs him and takes the phone a million times and he goes back 🏃to take the phone a million and one. As we speak now he is plotting another means to take the phone again.He knows she would beat him but the boy doesn’t care he goes back to take the phone and runs away laughing🤣 and jumping.

Patience is about strategically changing your narrative

Patience is taking daily steps to approach the vision without falling into the temptation of quitting.

Patience is understanding the responsibility God has placed on you, even with all your imperfections

Patience is looking forward to the joy that comes from proficient quality output.

Let us run with patience the race that is set before us.

#happynewyear
#personaldevelopmentno3

Patience begets capacity
Model @cylojay

Live Independently

on the maturity continuum, dependence is that you always come through for me and when you don’t,  I blame you for the outcome. Independence is that I can do it,  I am self-reliant and I am all it takes. While interdependence is that we can do it if we come together, we can achieve great results.

friend who come off as independent find it much easier to cooperate than those who believe you are supposed to do something about their situation.

learn to be an independent friend who can hold his/her own and give value to others when the time comes. Focus on your own growth and don’t expect anything from anyone, not even that which you know you can give or have given. 

some of the simple ways to independence and subsequently interdependence is:

1. Always appreciate the effort of others. 

2. Expect nothing from no-one especially when you did not work for it.

3. Always be willing to share your opinions, food and materials with others

4. Be dependable.

people get worn off when you always depend on them. Learn to hold your own hands and walk through the woods sometimes .

Float

Choosing not to respond to every negative energy projected into you is one of the very present peace protection strategy I know.

If you stay in Ibadan, you probably already know what happens when it rains, there seems to be a temporary rapture for only okada men.

However, that day my okada man (my byc driver) decided to turn super man on me, he rode that day for almost 15 mins under the piercing rain, I thought I was being kidnapped (from Mokola round about to Eleyele).

on getting to the venue where I volunteerd to act, I muttered a few words not considering the people that might get discouraged by that, and I really didnt care. I felt everybody was feeling the same way (drenched) . The training went on and everything was fine until I got down from the okada the following morning, only for my friendship to come from the sky and tell me what I said was wrong and I need not to always say how I feel “what”!!!!!!!!!! I exclaimed.

This must stop I said to myself, at my age you mean I can’t express myself. Well stop right there….

Some days latter I realized how bitter one could get it you keep having an emotional reaction to everything that happens around you or to every word said to you. I began to learn to navigate my feelings to places of peace and growth.

These days i float.

Be prepared

As i stepped out of the house that morning the only thing on my mind  was how beautiful it would be to go out to meet a client, take her measurement and dress details and probably have some small productive talk which i live for.😉

We had just finished the first part of our discussion, then she stood and asked me to take her measurement

Guess what !! 😵😕

Thank God for the tailor next door

Then i realized that greatness is not planned  but prepared for. How many times have we  “kabashed” for things we fail to prepare for

Faith isn’t just the believe, but the action that shows that we are prepared for the things hoped for.

– Jemima Jameson

#beprepared
#brothercrush
#lovenwisdom

True freedom

A lot can happen during a life time, but true freedom comes when we understand that we are just human, and accept those feelings and situations without letting them define us.

I plugged in my headset to my brain, just to escape from the fear that was now taking residence in my veins, took my time to prepare a nice meal and sat in the palour to watch a very relaxing movie that turned back to hunt me. “Nothing was working”.

I had to stop reminding myself that I am not hurt and I am not afraid and accept that I am hurt and I am afraid and it’s OK because I am human.

True freedom comes when you understand that beign afraid and feeling crushed is part of our humanity and stop treating these things like some abstract elements.

True strength lies in our ability to give every feeling an expression (speak to yourself) and accept that this is where we are for now and it ok, Just before we try to be better.

Accept that you are afraid and tired. Accept that you are silly sometimes and forgetful. Accept who you could be at some point, but don’t stay there, keep moving. Keep telling yourself that you are more, because God is involved.

never let that darkness define you, but first accept that you are in the dark.

These abnormalities actually do make us normal.

#thankGoditsfriday

 

My little temper

The quality of a man is determined by how well he controls himself when he has everything – John Maxwell